Thursday, February 4, 2016

I am done with polls

I had an experience a few days ago that solidified by opposition to telephone polling and further bolstered my conviction that all of these political polls being focused on so feverishly in the press are seriously flawed. So, probably sometime last week, a woman called me, representing herself as being part of a retirement organization. The way it was expressed, I assumed this was some sort of nonprofit dedicated to helping people in retirement. So, I broke my rule of not responding to polls over the telephone. (Why? you might ask....because usually they are fronts for some sort of sales tactic). I answered her questions and shockingly, she did not launch into a sales pitch, so I was mildly surprised. Well, then, guess what happened two days ago? A young man called, supposedly following up on her survey. He then tried to coerce me into allowing him to drop by (since he was going to be in my neighborhood) and he could then provide some solutions to concerns I had exhibited. Of course,none of this could be dropped off or sent electronically or mentioned over the phone because that would limit the high pressure sales tactics he could employ.

True pollsters are going to need to find another way to do this as people like me are sick and tired of being taken advantage of in this way. It is just ridiculous.

Monday, February 1, 2016

On the mothers in our life: A Memoriam to Meri

We all have one mother and if we are lucky, she is a happy part of our lives for many, many years. But not everyone is so lucky. Mothers sometimes leave this world early or leave our lives too early. It is never the right time. My own mother died when I was forty-four, my father when I was twenty-nine, as I was rather a significant surprise to them, late in their reproductive years. So, what I've noticed is that when we lose someone dear to us, as a parent, over time another person steps into our lives to fill that role, at least partially.

Meri Bryant was one such person in my life. Not sure exactly how long ago I met her, but it has been many years. Warm, loving, generous....Meri always knew how to comfort a friend, mother a neighbor, care for a stranger. Meri was a beautiful person, not just on the outside, but through and through. An excellent cook, she seemed to effortlessly whip together gourmet meals on the spur of the moment and never get flustered. We all grieved when she and Zelda moved away from NC as the times to connect would be fewer. One of the last times I saw her, before she was diagnosed with the cancer that took her this past weekend, she spoke of getting older and of death and leaving her children behind. We had a good conversation, as we walked the streets of Charleston after a wonderful dinner out.

We lost another beautiful mother-person but take comfort in her spirit soaring in joy and love.
Rest in Peace, Meri